Go beyond understanding .
NATHALIE
DA COSTA
Find resolution .
Peace of mind begins
where repetition ends
You know the problem. You understand the pattern.
You may even know where it comes from. Yet it keeps repeating.
Some things cannot be resolved through understanding alone.
They need to be experienced differently.
I guide you through your own internal experience, allowing what remains unresolved to unfold, change and reach completion.
You know better than anyone what will truly work for you.
My role is to create the right conditions for you to get there.
The Approach
Treating symptoms instead of causes. Effort is often focused on changing behaviors, habits, or decisions while the underlying process remains unchanged. The endless "shoulds" and "musts" that never work or never last.
Using logic only to solve emotional processes. Most recurring issues are emotionally driven; understanding them intellectually is often not enough to resolve them.
Analyzing the past without changing the experience. You may know exactly when a belief was formed, who influenced it, or why you developed it; the story is probably very clear but the emotional response remains unchanged, even after so many years of "knowing" about it.
Expecting all answers to come from the expert. Advice can be useful, but no amount of external expertise can replace your own firsthand knowledge of how your own mind or system works.
Common Limitations
Stop the problem at its source. We identify and resolve the underlying process generating the recurring pattern rather than managing its visible consequences.
Use experience to resolve experience. Your mind naturally brings forward the experiences that matter. We follow your own internal experience as it unfolds, allowing unresolved emotional processes to reach completion.
Resolve, don't just understand. Instead of only understanding why something happens, we engage with the underlying emotional process itself, allowing what was left unfinished to be experienced differently and reach completion.
Make you the source of the solution. My expertise lies in guiding the process, not in providing the answers. No one has better access to your inner experience than you do. I guide you through unexplored paths that allow new connections, insights and solutions to emerge.
My Approach
The Experience
We begin with the challenge you are facing today, whether it concerns your personal life, your relationships, your work or your team.
Together, we explore your inner experience —your emotions, bodily sensations, images and memories— to uncover the patterns that shape your reactions, decisions and relationships. These experiences often reveal what lies beneath the issue more clearly than words or analysis alone.
Every encounter follows the same philosophy, but no fixed protocol. The process adapts to what emerges, working directly with your inner experience to understand, process and resolve what lies beneath the surface. By addressing the source rather than the symptoms, we create the conditions for lasting change.
While lasting change unfolds over time, many people notice a meaningful shift during the very first encounter —whether through greater clarity, a sense of relief, renewed confidence or simply feeling lighter.
"Lasting change rarely comes from trying harder
or thinking more about the problem.
It begins by understanding the pattern that quietly shapes how you think, behave and relate."
Where We Start
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Burnout or chronic stress
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Procrastination or difficulty taking action
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Perfectionism and the pressure to perform
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Difficulty making decisions or setting boundaries
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Recurring conflicts at home or at work
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Career or life transitions
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Losing meaning or satisfaction at work
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Feeling lost, disconnected or like a fraud
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... or simply the feeling that the same situation keeps repeating despite your best efforts to change it.
Common Reasons People Reach Out
What (not) to Expect
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Deep listening without judgement.
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A focus on lasting transformation rather than superficial quick fixes.
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An honest approach that respects your pace while challenging you when needed.
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An exploration of your emotions, bodily sensations and inner experiences—not only your thoughts.
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Being surprised by what you will discover or experience, no matter how familiar you are with the problem.
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A personalised process that adapts to what emerges, rather than following a fixed formula.
What to Expect
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Advice on what decisions you should make.
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A passive conversation where you simply tell your story while I listen.
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Quick fixes, motivational speeches or techniques that only manage symptoms.
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Labels, diagnoses or someone trying to convince you of a particular interpretation of yourself.
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Instant miracles or guarantees —lasting changes require your willingness to engage with yourself.
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Hypnosis or altered states of consciousness. You remain fully aware and in control throughout the process.
What NOT to Expect
"Rather than trying to eliminate the problem immediately, we first seek to understand what it is trying to tell you."
About You
Whether you come as an individual or as part of an organization, there is one essential requirement for this process: a genuine willingness to explore what is happening beneath the surface. Without it, meaningful change is unlikely.
Rather than focusing on techniques or strategies, we explore the underlying dynamics that sustain the recurring patterns you know so well. Whether you are facing a difficult relationship, an important decision, the feeling that you simply cannot carry on as you have been, or a sense that the usual ways of solving problems are no longer enough, this process will lead you to a new understanding and to answers that truly make sense to you.
My role is not to provide answers or advice, but to offer a structured, non-directive space where these experiences can be explored with clarity and honesty, to let new answers and perspectives emerge.
About Me
I have always been fascinated by the mind and the complexity of human interactions. From an early age, I understood that we each experience reality in our own subjective way, and that our behaviour often does not reflect how we truly feel inside. We learn to play roles to fit in, meet expectations, or preserve a certain image of ourselves. These dynamics are universal—they exist at school, at home or at work.
This early awareness led me to always look beyond what was visible on the surface. Over time, I became increasingly attuned to the underlying dynamics that shape behavior. For individuals, these may include limiting beliefs, unresolved traumas, fears, or conditioning. Within organizations, they are often reinforced by power dynamics, ego, unspoken agendas, and the pressure to maintain appearances.
After twelve years in the corporate world, I recognized how my own patterns—perfectionism and the need for recognition, among others— were influencing the way I worked, while also witnessing how unresolved personal dynamics could shape an entire organization. The same patterns repeated themselves, yet rarely surfaced because addressing them felt too sensitive or risky. This led me to leave the corporate world to deepen my understanding of the mind, which, at the time, seemed to lie at the root of everything.
While studying cognitive and behavioural processes, I was naturally drawn to coaching for its focus on the present, personal responsibility, and action. I initially believed that the mind held all the answers, but through my own deep inner work, I came to realize that understanding was not enough to change. Lasting change requires experiencing, feeling, and integrating what lies beneath the surface to resolve patterns at their source.
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My experience ranges from tech start-ups to a family-owned company that grew into an international hospitality group, where I reached the position of Director of Sales & Marketing Operations Iberia.
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Former member of the Iberian board of directors at Sani/Ikos Group
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Worked and lived across 7 countries in Europe, the US, and China.
Professional experience
Education & Training
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Trained in systemic business coaching and certified in ICF-accredited coaching.
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Harvard Extension School psychology studies: the neuroscience of learning, and self & identity.
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Academic background in international trade and intercultural communication.
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Academic research on perfectionism and moral injury, from a cognitive behavioral perspective.
Working Together
Individuals
1. Discovery Call
20 min | Free
A complimentary 20-minute call to briefly discuss your situation, answer your questions, and determine whether this approach is right for you.
2. Your First Session
90 min | 100 €
A reduced introductory rate that allows you to experience the process before deciding whether to continue.
3. You Decide
If you decide to continue, you have 2 options:
a) On Demand Sessions
90 min | 120 €
No commitment. Book sessions whenever you feel the need.
b) The Bundle
3 x 75 min | 300 €
Use your 3 sessions at any time within 3 months.
Important note: This approach complements —but does not replace—
psychological, psychiatric or medical care when these are needed.
Organizations
I work with organizations facing recurring human challenges affecting teams and performance. Services include:
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Individual coaching
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Conflict mediation
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Workshops
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Keynote talks
Every intervention is designed around the specific context and objectives of the organization. Further information and pricing available upon request.
